October 1, 2014 – Black and white

I am a recovering “black and white” leader. Left or right. Up or down. Wrong or right. Good or bad. Either/or.

Why do we get backed into corners when it comes to philosophy or theology or strategy or politics? No doubt in my mind that there are a variety of reasons. For me, and perhaps for you, I’m a product of my environment…parental guidance; school teachers and coaches; preachers and advisors; employers and employees; teammates; family members…all have had pivotal impact points on my life.

But, unexplainable events also have shaped me. Things happen that just don’t make sense…or at least they don’t seem to make sense at the time they happen. Both good and bad, by the way. Asking “why me?” occurs more often than not in my life because I feel so fortunate to be blessed as I have been.

This is one more attempt to let you know how important I believe it is that we look at life (business, family, politics, religion, etc) from a “both/and” perspective rather than an “either/or” point of view. At this stage of my life I’m asking (either to myself or right out loud) “REALLY???!!!” when someone makes a statement that they claim to be absolutely the only way.

Maybe, just maybe, there is more than one way…one idea…one path. Maybe, some things we just can’t explain at all. You know what? I’m finally comfortable with not knowing or even thinking that I have to know. What a place of freedom that is!

Try it. You might enjoy the freedom, too.

David Miller Initials

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April 5, 2014 – Listen more, talk less

At the Coaching for Greater Effectiveness program that I completed this week, all the participants received friendly, yet appropriately critical input on areas for improvement in our coaching styles and techniques. My greatest weakness is talking too much and not listening enough. Friends and family have known this for years! And, I certainly have admitted to some kernel of truth in their assessments.

Yet, hearing from professional, caring colleagues really made me sit up and take notice. Instead of a 20/80 talking/listening ratio I pretty well had that reversed! So I have some practicing to do in order to improve. I think I’ll start practicing here by ending this blog now. How’s that?

David Miller Initials

April 1, 2014 – Always more to learn

Monday through Wednesday this week I’m participating in a coaching effectiveness program facilitated by the Center for Creative Leadership, a world-renown organization. Later this week, Friday through Sunday, I will be Utopia, Texas for a leadership retreat hosted by author, speaker, sports psychologist, and movie maker, Dr. David Cook.

At this stage of life I’ve learned (and forgotten) a great deal. Yet, I’m still learning. I want and need to know what I don’t know. And the type of events mentioned above help me do that.

Do you know what you don’t know? Of course not! Otherwise, you’d know it. So, the only way we can find out is to continue learning and listening and discovering.

Speaking of “more” here is some more information about CCL and Dr. Cook. As a leader you will find both worth your time.

http://www.linksofutopia.com/cms/

http://www.ccl.org/leadership/index.aspx?v=1.1

There is always more.

David Miller Initials