July 8, 2014 – Speaking of choices …

I’ve observed that we are into choice overload. Just selecting a body bath wash was a bit overwhelming in the drug store today. I’ll bet I had at least 50 options to choose from. Really? Couldn’t you just give me four fragrances and two sizes to select from???

The freedom of choice is one of the highest valued privilege in our society. But research is beginning to demonstrate that having so many choices is lowering that value. Why? Paralysis by analysis! The greater number of choices that are thrown at us, the more hesitant we are to make a choice. We’re afraid we might make the wrong choice, thus adding to our already elevated stress level.

And guess what? When we finally do make a choice it is often based on a whim or an emotion or what we think might make us more popular or accepted (rather than what we truly need or want).

Our uncertainties are often being manipulated by smart, slick marketeers that give them a clear advantage and none for us.

Simplify your life. Narrow the choices to just a manageable handful. Then choose and never look back. Stress removed, purchase made, moving on. Btw, don’t get caught in the same trap and offer your clients/customers or employees too many choices. Provide a few options with clear differences and make it easy for a choice to be made.

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May 21, 2014 – EPIC – THE big story

Yesterday’s post was entitled “Your BIG Story”. I now know, more than ever before, that in spite of my best efforts to understand life, I simply can’t. There is more than I can imagine or grasp.

But there is a bigger story than just mine (or yours) going on. It is truly Epic in proportion to ours. John Eldredge writes about it in his book by the same name. Here is an excerpt from it. I encourage you to get your own copy (short read, BIG story).

“Walk into any large mall, museum, amusement park, university, or hospital, and you will typically meet at once a very large map with the famous red star and the encouraging words You are here. These maps are offered to visitors as ways to orient themselves to their situation, get some perspective on things. This is the Big Picture. This is where you are in that picture. Hopefully you now know where to go. You have your bearings.

Oh, that we had something like this for our lives. ‘This is the Story in which you have found yourself. Here is how it got started. Here is where it went wrong. Here is what will happen next. Now this—this is the role you’ve been given. If you want to fulfill your destiny, this is what you must do. These are your cues. And here is how things are going to turn out in the end.’

We can. We can discover the Story. Maybe not with perfect clarity, maybe not in the detail that you would like, but in greater clarity than most of us now have, and that would be worth the price of admission. I mean, to have some clarity would be gold right now. Wouldn’t it?”

Want more?  Get your copy of Epic today

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May 20, 2014 – Your BIG story

Understanding: the 2nd Cornerstone of leadership and team development. The way to get understanding (well-defined expectations) is to discover through listening, reading, observing, touching, researching, discussing. Then we need to clarify what we have discovered by repeating what we’ve learned, discussing it more, and checking with other sources when needed. And then comes the step of questioning…not challenging…the source of information. “Would 6:30 be just as good as 7:00 for you”? You are simply asking.

The 4th step in reaching understanding is to confirm. You have the information. You’ve clarified it. You have had your questions answered. And now, you and your partner, spouse, associate, student..whoever…are ready to confirm. “Yes, this is what we agreed upon.” And since you have agreed, perhaps you even put it in writing for further confirmation so that memories don’t fade as time goes by.

Keep all this in mind as we explore the 3rd Cornerstone these next few days. First trust. Then Understanding. Then…Freedom.

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